Living a Well Balanced Life with Emotional Intelligence
Some people think emotional intelligence is more important that having “book smarts”. Your emotional intelligence guides you in your interactions in society. Some people have a low EQ, which means that they have a low ability to perceive and act upon emotional queues from themselves or others. While this person may be highly intelligent (high IQ), their social interactions are impaired because they cannot relate to other people around them on a personal level. Someone with a high EQ would be highly in tune to his own needs and the needs of the people around him. They generally have an easier time going through life because they are the one that others want to have around. Having a high EQ means that you relate well to others, you listen and are involved. Having a high EQ can help you find success in life. Improving your emotional intelligence is a long process, but can be done with some determination.
- Self-Aware. Being self-aware means that you understand your emotions and you don’t let your feelings rule your behavior. Increasing your self-awareness involves looking inward to see how you react to other people. Try to understand why you react the way you do to certain situations. Ask yourself why do I act that way? Also try looking at yourself or your actions from another’s perspective. This is called empathy. See yourself the way others do. This will help you understand what others are going through, but also allows you to see how your actions affect others.
- Practice Humility. Being humble doesn’t mean that you aren’t confident or secure. Being humble shows others around you, especially in your work environment, that you aren’t looking for all the attention. Frequently in the work environment you are part of a team. Claiming credit for a task that everyone worked on is arrogant and selfish. Being humble and recognizing that everyone helped accomplish a goal shows that you appreciate everyone’s effort, no matter how small. This shows that you are able to work within a team and guide them to finish their project.
- Control Your Stress Response. Stress is a part of life. No matter where you are in your life, you will always run across stressful situations. Your reaction to this stress is a big indicator of your emotional intelligence. A low EQ means that you will get angry, maybe throw items or yell at others. People with higher EQs tend to wait before reacting. They think about what they should say before the words come out or think about what the proper action should be. Reacting slower and calmer usually helps resolve the stressful situation sooner and in a more positive manner.
- Be Responsible. Don’t blame others for your actions. This only damages your relationship with that person. Don’t be afraid to apologize. If you hurt someone’s feelings, make sure to directly apologize to them. Be sincere in your apology and try to not do the action again. Repeated apologies for the same action reduce the significance to the person you are apologizing to. Admitting mistakes and making the changes necessary to avoid the same mistakes over and over again is a sign that you are increasing your emotional intelligence.